“How do I feel happy?” some patients ask. The psychology of pain and the psychology of ‘feelings’ is amazingly intertwined. Is it purely chemical, as some doctors believe? Is it a problem with low ‘serum prozac’? Lack or abundance of spiritual needs? Perhaps a problem with persistent pain, causing feelings of helplessness? Maybe some people need to just talk it out? Keep quiet? Run? The answer to this question is simple. Sorta.
In a culture short on exercise, nutrients and health it’s no wonder there are so many personal ‘ouchies’. Family and Spiritual values are ever-changing, but seldom does someone wonder why our Emotional needs change too.
Back in the day… I used to need time to ‘decompress’. Time to myself to unwind and relax. So, I used to just go away for the weekend. Never someplace fancy, just go and sit. This worked for me. I would leave on Thursday, come back on Monday refreshed, relaxed and energized with a new zest for life. Again, this worked for me. Now, it doesn’t work. I could do it 10 weekends in a row and it doesn’t work. My needs have changed, my ‘rules’ have changed. What is important to me has changed, so my thinking had to change.
The topic at hand… Happy thoughts. Chemically, endorphins give short-term sense of well-being. The important part to know is that endorphins also act as natural pain-killers, but they also have a limit. A time limit, to be more accurate. If your are in a place of poor health and only excercise, get adjusted, eat properly on a seldom occasion then you will only get benefits for hours at a time. The key is to make a habit. Make a HEALTHY habit.
How? Make small changes. First, diet. Simplest diet? Eat real food. Forget the fads, just eat real food. You know what is good for you, if you have heartburn, constipation, poor energy then it isn’t working for you. Second, Exercise!!! I don’t care if it’s 30 minutes three times per week. Our bodies were meant to move, not sit in front of the computer. Third, Get adjusted. Yes, get your spine adjusted. Adjusting the spine will not only decrease tension, but YOUR body will immediately release endorphins after getting adjusted. Last, personal emotional ‘nonsense’. Time to start moving past some of this nonsense. Seeing a psychologist is NEVER a bad idea (notice I didn’t say psychiatrist, who may be worried about low serum prozac). There is a time and place for medicine, but that is only after all else fails. DO SOMETHING to help the emotions. Dr. Wayne Dyer had an idea that I tried and the results were great. I wrote down 5 people on a list with whom I was mad, angry, disappionted, etc… Each of them got a King Cake from me, with a pleasant note wishing them well. That’s it. No ego, no ‘stabs’, just well wishes. Sometimes it helps to forgive on the outside, which in turn helps forgive on the inside.
Happy Thoughts… Get your endorphins kicking, get your happy back. Get your nutrition straight, Exercise, See the Chiropractor and send a couple King Cakes. It’s a start… First steps are sometimes the hardest to make, it’s time.
and… Smile before you pick up the phone, you’d be surprised what it will do for the conversation!